Different Wavelengths

Sometimes, through the years I just want to throw my hands up.   Even today, the thought of going and doing something at a moments notice, becomes deadend.

Over the past thirty-three years together, unless I plan and make plans aware and down to the minute, things will not happen in this relationship.  No matter what it is.  Yes, sex, too.5A5CABA9-2B4C-47F8-A06A-26138023EB11

I do the planning, make financial decisions and no matter what, which is a lot of pressure on a wife.    Perhaps realizing just four years ago I have dealt with Aspergers, I get it now but still it does not ease the frustration of the past, present or future.

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Just today, the thought of going to a park I am unfamiliar with but he knows, I thought it would be a nice time to walk and enjoy the cool, crisp air with sun on my face.  Of course, he is walking the dog and the daylight hours were nearing and that would be mentioned when I brought up this brilliant idea and time wasted on details of such fact.  This is how it happens.  Never ending.  So, I usually go on my own and keep moving forward with, or most times, without him.

Is this typical with other Asperger couples?  Never on the same wavelength and it becomes lonely and sad.  I want more in life and fun.  Just no connection.

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Walk!

5812A837-F8EA-44EA-BCC9-71A9E0895813While taking a break from studying since mid-terms, which I feel I did not do well on, I know myself well enough that my thoughts go downhill.  I beat myself up and feel as though everything, everybody and life is against me.  Whoa is me!   I’m sure I am not the only one that hits this wall.  It’s tormenting.

With everything else, the class is just one more heap of coal on my head burying me with defeat.

11E34DD4-73DA-47BD-B0BF-7EF9828BAB9EToday, in between cleaning and laundry, I would check out Pinterest, an enjoyable addiction I have.  Different times, this one post would come before me.  That is one to walk, if just for ten minutes.  Of course, the rebellious, stubborn attitude within me, says NO!  I don’t want to walk, I want to stay inside my four walls and avoid life outside.  Isolation.  Just having an adult hissy fit, for two days, feeling like a child.  4793EE38-CCD8-4B47-9AC5-B90BEC14F3F7

Knowing today was a beautiful day, I finally gave in.  If just ten minutes. Usually, my friend and I walk together two or more miles a day, weather permitting, but she is out of town.  So, who cares if I do or if I don’t?

Off I go with my earbuds and sunglasses, as it was a beautiful day indeed.   I try to listen to Christian messages or music when alone and I chose Joyce Meyer today.  The first message was good but the second was for me.

I love when this happens.  The message is, ‘Overcoming Worry and Anxiety.’  He is with me.  Say that!  Say that, or think that when all hell is breaking apart inside.  He does knows where we are and most importantly, He knows where we are going.  We can rest In Him.  I Am because I Am and we can trust Him.  Believing this, lessens the load on our mind with anxiety and worry.  I know it’s true!  Even when I don’t want to.

Will I fail and mess up again?  Probably so but that’s what is good about God, He has enough mercy and grace to see me through again.  The walk did help my outlook so I am glad I pushed myself while moaning and groaning within, throwing my hissy fit.

You know what?  He knows me and He knows my hissy fits.  He knows why I am experiencing what I am and He sees the tears that fall.  He is with me!

Words Within

Walking tonight with my earbuds in listening to a Christian radio station, as I do when walking alone, I am also alone in my thoughts and prayers.   So many of the songs, I could have written myself.  Of course, the thought, why didn’t I write that song, as I could be rich crosses my mind but I continue walking remembering all the heartache, the sadness, loneliness and on and on.  1C04A543-34CC-47BE-8F04-3281E986845F  The words are within in my heart but not on paper.  Oh how He knows my name, how He lifts me up and will never let me down.  If we take time, I bet each of us can write a song of the test and trials we have each gone through.  Thankfully the music artists have done just that so we can listen to and feel deep within.  Hope is knowing we are not alone and through each song, somebody experienced pain to get there. Realize you have words within.  While they may not make the billboard or any further than your thoughts, they are your words and the Lord hears and understands them.

Breakthrough

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Through the years I have noticed that when times or situations get hard and I want to give up, that’s when I need to push harder, as a breakthrough is coming.

Perhaps this is just for me today or you.  I know the last few weeks have been rough but I know to PUSH through the feelings, thoughts and emotions.

The enemy (Satan) wants nothing more than to heep on discouragement, hopelessness, bring discord, etc.  This enables to keep us stuck and remain in the pit of despair.

I know in times past, if I felt a wedge between a friend or acquaintance, I pretty well knew this was happening.  Just yesterday, I stopped a person and flat-out asked if there was something wrong because the last few weeks, the association was not the same.   Stopped this in its tracks. All is well.

Many, many years ago I had the same happen with a lady a church whom I thought was nice and our friendship was growing but that nagging feeling and lies within we’re bother me.   Even back then, I knew to ‘nip it in the bud’ as ole Barney Fife would say.   From that day afterward, our friendship has grown and I would say that she is my true BFF in life.  We may be miles apart but there have been times that she has texted me and say, ‘What’s up Buttercup, I feel something is wrong.’  When one is down, the other lifts the other up.  I would have missed out on this wonderful, sister-like friendship if I would have let the lies deteriorate this relationship.

97392048-5BAA-4FCE-A91B-98EF954E3612Noticing tension with my Counselor and I at times, this has been a true and obvious sign that a breakthrough is coming.  When I feel I have had enough, cannot take anymore, want to quit, I have dig my heels in and I do continue.  I know a breakthrough is near.  Odds are, she does also.

Even with walking/exercise and lack of weight loss, the scale is not moving, discouragement comes and the lies come, just give up.  Don’t you dare!   As the quote goes, unless you faint, throw up or die, keep moving forward.  A breakthrough will happen.  11FF8DB3-BAB0-4734-8622-3E4A10823669

So when you feel like    giving up on yourself, with another, a situation, weight loss, etc., keep moving forward.  You’ll be glad you did.  Victory!

Trust Him!